Spirituality Through Sexuality: Why Self-Pleasure is Sacred Work
For so long, sexuality and spirituality have been framed as opposites—one rooted in the body, the other in something beyond it. One physical, primal, even taboo; the other pure, elevated, and detached from desire. But what if this separation was never real? What if, instead of being at odds, sexuality and spirituality were different expressions of the same energy—two threads woven into the fabric of our existence?
For me, self-pleasure was the doorway to this understanding. It began as a practice of slowing down, of noticing—how my fingertips felt against my skin, the rise and fall of my breath, the way sensation moved through me like a pulse of life itself. In those moments, something shifted. I wasn’t just touching my body; I was listening to it. I wasn’t just experiencing pleasure; I was communing with something greater.
Pleasure as a Pathway to Presence
At its core, spirituality is about presence—being fully here, in the moment, connected to yourself and the world around you. So is pleasure. True pleasure is not just about chasing an orgasm or hitting a peak—it’s about being deeply attuned to the sensations, emotions, and energy moving through you. It is a practice of awareness, of reverence, of honouring your body as something sacred.
So many of us have been conditioned to see pleasure as something frivolous, indulgent, or even shameful. We’re taught that sexuality is either for reproduction or for someone else’s benefit. That desire must be controlled, hidden, or denied. That pleasure is a luxury rather than a birthright.
What if pleasure was actually a form of prayer? What if, instead of resisting our bodies, we trusted them? What if we saw pleasure as an invitation into deeper knowing, healing, and connection?
Self-Pleasure as Sacred Reclamation
When we reframe self-pleasure as a spiritual practice, it becomes something more than just a means to an end. It becomes an act of devotion—a reclaiming of the parts of ourselves that have been silenced, shamed, or ignored. It is an act of self-love, of radical self-acceptance, of choosing to honour our own desires rather than seeking permission to feel good.
This is where somatics play a crucial role. Our bodies hold so much—old stories, unprocessed emotions, inherited beliefs about pleasure and worth. Through somatic self-pleasure practices, we can begin to gently unravel these layers, to meet ourselves with curiosity rather than judgment. Breath, movement, sound, and touch become tools for deepening our connection to ourselves, for releasing what no longer serves, for expanding our capacity to receive.
When we create safety within our bodies, we create space for deeper sensation, deeper presence, deeper pleasure. And from that place of safety, we don’t just experience pleasure—we integrate it. We let it shape us, open us, awaken us.
Reclaiming Pleasure as Power
There is a profound shift that happens when we stop seeking validation from external sources and start cultivating fulfillment from within. Self-pleasure is not just about the body—it’s about stepping into our own power, our own autonomy, our own knowing. It is a remembrance of our inherent worthiness, a reclaiming of the joy that has always been ours to hold.
Pleasure is not indulgence—it is devotion. It is the sacred meeting of body and spirit, the bridge between the physical and the divine. When we honour our pleasure, we honour ourselves. And when we honour ourselves, we create a life that is not just lived, but deeply, fully felt.
Like the lotus, your pleasure is a sacred unfolding—rooted in depth, rising into radiance. 🌸
If you are ready to explore the sacred work of your sexuality, you’re in the right place.
